One thing my boss learned about me in my final weeks at my job is that I’m a tightly-wound ball of loose, fun, colorful, frazzled yarn. Or maybe I’m a loosely-braided ball of really hard, tough wire. I don’t know…Who knows?!?! She looked at me with great sympathy and said, “It must be really stressful being you – you’re a walking contradiction of OCD and ADD.”
I was known as the free-spirit, the hippy, the rule-breaker, the “what box?” person in our office of 16. So it seemed strange to her when I melted down in my office and busted out with the admission that my house was in disarray because of the reno, my treadmill was out of commission, and it made me feel like my whole life was falling apart. Okay now that does sound dramatic. However, I thrive on structure and schedules and to-do lists, yet I operate in un-structured spontaneous irreverent ways. I finally realized that the lists and order are coping mechanisms I’ve developed to survive in the real world.
This got me thinking…Is there any part of me that is wholly and completely any one certain way? (These things are probably not unique to ENFPs, and certainly not unique to me…just a little self-realization at 40, that’s all.)
Political views: With regards to taxes, government-involvement, economic policy, domestic and global protection…completely Republican. With regards to personal decisions …completely Democrat. I realize this pretty much makes me a Libertarian, which pretty much makes me screwed.
Religious views: My dad, grandfather, and uncle are/were Southern Baptist ministers. I was raised in the church and am so thankful for it. I like believing in the things the Bible teaches. I like the way I feel/am/behave when I leave church. I think a lot of the world’s problems would be solved if more people knew and followed Jesus. I don’t believe everyone else has got it all wrong and are doomed to hell. I don’t believe science had no part in this. I don’t believe we should look any differently at people who don’t believe like we do. I don’t believe what Christianity is taught to be, in most cases, was what was intended. And even if I’m still afraid to be so brash as to claim that any parts of the Bible are wrong, humans are. All the time. And we’re the ones trying to read/teach/impose it. Language and metaphors and translations and interpretations are real actual things. Jenn Hatmaker says it best in her book, For the Love…”If it isn’t also true for a poor, single Christian mom in Haiti, it isn’t true.” Fact check, mic drop.
Career: I need someone to tell me exactly what to do, and then I want to do it completely differently and them not get mad. Good thing I’m going to be a teacher again.
Homosexuality: If you’re going to use the Bible for reference to claim something as a sin, you have to use the same Bible as your reference that God created everyone in His image. Never met a gay person who was faking it. Never met a gay person who hadn’t tried to be straight. I have lots of friends who are gay. Some of them are the very best at showing God’s love – why should I care who they show it to?
Gun control: Guns should be controlled, but if I want one, please sell me one. I don’t care about privacy when it comes to this topic. I believe in lots of regulations here. But I think the sudden surge in taboo-izing guns is part of the problem. I want to be the one to decide who gets to buy guns and who doesn’t. I think that might help.
Marriage/Family/Divorce: Going to have to make this one a separate post. Stay tuned.
Parenting: I want to give them tons of structure, bedtimes, schedules, rules to follow, expectations to meet, with tons of independence, freedom, and self-expression.
Media: I hate the media. 100% completely. There!!!…I found something without a “but”.
**The Myers-Briggs Personality test categorizes ENFPs (Extraversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perception…also known as Campaigners, Champions, Idealists) as constantly contradicting themselves because they genuinely see multiple sides to most situations. Sorry not sorry.
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